There is Power in Your Pleasure.
Hi, my name’s Noah.
If you’re longing to connect more deeply with your pleasure and step into your erotic sovereignty, I’m here for you.
After all, who said healing shouldn’t feel good?
I’m a somatic sexologist here to support folks connect more fully with their bodies, pleasure, and agency through body-based practices, trauma-aware coaching + counselling, sex positive education, and sexologic bodywork. I work with individuals and couples in Victoria BC and online, and offer trainings for fellow helping and healing professionals.
We might be a good fit if you're feeling stuck or confused about sex: if sex and connection leave you stressed or overwhelmed, if you've been enduring rather than enjoying intimacy, or if you feel disconnected from yourself and your desires. In short - if you feel pretty clear about what doesn't work for you, but not yet about what does.
Or… perhaps you're feeling hungry to dive more deeply into the gifts pleasure and eros offer your life. You know what you value, you know that sex is a skill (and that skill can be learned), and you are here to embrace more of what lights you up and nourishes your soul.
Please feel free to read on to learn more about my scope of practice and different options for working together. Also, if you’re interested, you can read more about my full background here.
My Scope of Practice:
Embracing erotic joy and pleasure after sexual trauma
Expanding experiences of arousal, connection, and intimacy
Coaching in negotiation and communication
Addressing pelvic pain / numbness / challenges with orgasm
Strengthening consent and boundaries
Education regarding sex, trauma and the nervous system
Neurodiversity affirming support
Journeying the 2SLGBTQ+ galaxy & transitions of all sorts
Navigating differences in desire
Mending wounds in self esteem & self worth
Sex & disability & aging support
Kink/BDSM resourcing
Ethical non-monogamy support
Deepening into sex, spirit & ritual
How To Work Together:
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Coaching
You are the expert on your life, and I deeply believe change blooms once you get honest with yourself about what you actually want, and where you want to go. It would be a joy to support you in making movements towards your dreams, and building workable systems to help you thrive along the way. My coaching draws from a variety of sources - from old wisdom traditions to contemporary clinical models - to help you more fully realize your own sense of erotic wholeness and vitality while building the pleasures, relationships, habits, and environments that sustain it.
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Counselling
It would be an honour to be by your side during your soul journey of being on this planet - with deep listening, earnest curiosity, strengths-based cheerleading, and a full-hearted trust that you already hold everything you need to travel your own path of healing, insight, and growth. I arrive as a counsellor believing that every part of you (even the parts that feel really messy or like they just get in the way) deserves to be held with integrity, compassion, respect, and staying curious about how they serve you. I’m certainly not interested in ‘fixing’ you because I don’t believe you’re broken.
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Somatic Sex Education
Most of what we learn about sex and desire comes from everywhere except our own bodies. This work turns that around, blending somatic, mind-body practices with functional tools to help you strengthen your relationship with sex, pleasure, boundaries, communication, and perhaps even your own sense of gender or erotic identity. In somatic sex education we dive into whatever's relevant for you - whether it’s developing skills for navigating consent, learning about sex toys + tools, exploring kink or non-monogamy, or cultivating greater embodied pleasure and erotic joy. Lean more here!
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Sexologic Bodywork*
Sexologic Bodywork offers a hands-on touch-based path back to your own body and erotic sovereignty: consent-informed, pleasure-centred, and client-led. Whether the focus is remediating scar tissue, mapping pleasure and sensation, experiential learning about kink and BDSM, or exploring erotic massage, every offering is shaped by your goals and grounded in consent and communication that we establish together beforehand. Touch is one-way, attuned to your preferences and comfort level, and never rushed. Learn more here!
*Sexologic Bodywork is not available to coaching or counselling clients.
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Dearmouring*
What if your armour wasn't something to break but to melt? De-armouring is a somatic practice rooted in Wilhelm Reich's theory of body armour: pain and lived experience settling into the body as constriction and frozenness. Through breath, movement, and client-centred touch (or touch-free energy work), we gently release what's been held, without rushing to crack the protection that's kept you safe - honouring your armour’s history while also creating room for what you want to invite in. Learn more here!
*Dearmouring of sexually sensitive body parts is not available to coaching or counselling clients.
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Sex & Somatics Training
It’s my belief that you can't hold for others what you haven't held for yourself. The Sex & Somatics professional training is built on that premise, inviting psychotherapists, coaches, and counsellors into an online weekend of embodied learning around pleasure, consent, boundaries, and the erotic cultures we choose to model and co-create - for our clients and ourselves. Participants can expect a mix of theory and direct embodied exploration, and will leave with an intuitive and embodied toolkit for holding your own and your clients' erotic stories with care. Learn more here!
I’d love to send you letters!
Once a month I send a letter from the heart: tools, skills, and interesting things about sex and pleasure I want you to know about. Sometimes a heads up on upcoming workshops or events. Sometimes a behind-the-scenes glimpse into my work and life.
These letters are entirely homemade (100% Canadian!) and boy do they take awhile to bake. I don’t send them often, but, let’s remember what sex researcher Emily Nagoski likes to say: what makes good sex good isn't about ‘how much’, or ‘how often’. Instead, ‘pleasure is the measure’ of sexual satisfaction.
A little about me…
I've worked and studied in the field of sexuality for 15+ years, and in that time found myself drawn in by the wild magic of exquisite, present eroticism that creates space for depth and soul connection. That joy is what brought me to this work supporting others in their journeys to connecting with eros, pleasure, and erotic aliveness.
I'm here because:
I believe people deserve a conscious, connected relationship with their eroticism and pleasure.
I see a real cultural need for presence, intimacy, and touch that feels so damn good.
I believe resilience and joy come from embracing our bodies and pleasure - not avoiding or numbing them.
I recognize that sex-negative culture, poor sex education, racism, ableism, and other forms of discrimination all hinder our ability to feel easefully sexy and alive. And that there's far too little support for working with those obstacles.
I believe that feeling even 10% more connected to our erotic selves is more attainable than we've been led to believe. And I'm committed to helping get us there.
“I gardened around my trauma to create a world of luscious nowness rather than pruning and weeding it down to one sterile monument to the past.”
-Sophie Strand
What Clients Are Saying:
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"I feel that working with Noah saved me years of pain, confusion, and self-abandonment. Exploring my sexuality and having a deeper understanding of my sexual trauma with his support was a profoundly healing experience for me. Through our work together, I was able to look at previously banished parts of myself and find beauty, inspiration, and magic in them. I have never felt so deeply safe, seen, listened to and respected in intimacy before. That is because Noah is a gifted and experienced practitioner with a very unique, impressive set of skills and a truly trauma-informed approach. He is also genuinely supportive, kind, compassionate, and non-judgmental. I wholeheartedly recommend Noah to anyone looking to heal or expand their relationship with their sexuality."
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"Thank you for helping me on my journey to discover my body, my voice and my self. The sessions I have had with you allowed me to broaden my view and experience with pleasure, feel strong enough to communicate my desires with others, and also gave me an opportunity to explore sensations, objects etc in a comfortable and caring setting. I can't thank you enough for all the embodiment and communication practices you have taught me. The benefit of your sessions will be life long."
-AD
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"I’ve been meaning to email you and have been having trouble finding the right words. I can’t articulate how meaningful it is the work you do. As some insights and learning continues to settle more and more, I am struck by the depth of value of what you offer in sessions. I hope you hear this often and with the appreciation you deserve, but I really truly appreciate you. "
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"I am really enjoying the areas we're exploring, including experiencing my self-consciousness in eye contact, being seen, and receiving touch that is for my pleasure. I'm looking forward to exploring more. I'm so grateful for the skill, thoughtfulness, insight and presence you bring to our sessions. This has been an amazing source of insight and joy so far."
-DM
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"I wanted to thank you again and express my gratitude for our time together, you really respected my vulnerability and allowed me to go at my own pace. I will definitely be putting some thought into what I would like to explore in future sessions."
-CL
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“Thank you! Our time together has been so, so helpful—often in ways I don’t expect. Things come up or happen that I know are happening because of the tools you’ve helped me acquire.”
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