The Muddy Waters of Consent.

Do you ever find yourself in muddy or murky situations when it comes to consent? I'm not talking about big transgressions where there are serious examples of exploitation, bulldozing, martyrdom, or enduring... I'm talking about the hazy moments that show up in daily life where something's not quite feeling right.

• Perhaps you've assumed a willingness that may or may not actaully be there.

• Perhaps you're not saying no... and not saying yes either.

• Or you're saying yes when you don't mean it.

• Perhaps you're not quite willing to do something... but haven't said no.

• Or you've stayed silent.

• Perhaps you've assumed or coerced consent.

I've been on both sides of all of these dynamics many times. As have many of my clients, friends, family, and lovers.

Consent and power is a real and impactful part of our lives. Choosing to explore these topics can be a powerful way to heal and gain clarity. Not only about our own lives, pasts, and choices, but also about the cultural and systemic contexts we find ourselves in. And, as we choose to strengthen our connection with our rights & responsibilities, our ability to connect with ourselves and with others deepens.